To be clear, when I say that the church’s theology surrounding love is woefully inadequate, carrying huge implications for celibate gay Christians, I am not trying to set up a case for gay marriage. Some accuse me of trying to create some sort of back-door argument that legitimizes gay marriage because it’s simply too hard to be celibate. But that’s not at all what I’m trying to say. Instead, in this post and others, I’m trying to build a case for changing the culture of the church, because much of our current atmosphere makes celibacy feel like a death sentence. This is not an argument for gay marriage. Rather, it’s an argument for changing our culture to align itself with the biblical vision for Christian community. It’s about making people flourish in the God-given vocation of celibacy.
Churches that seek to be faithful to the traditional sexual ethic face a tough reality. For better or worse, most people find love through marriage. It’s not the way things ought to be, but it’s the way things are. And if that’s the way things are, we’ve got a problem. Just how exactly are gay Christians supposed to experience love if they can’t get married to the people they love?
Christian community must provide a viable path for expressing love outside of marriage. Without it, we’re just as “anti-love” as all the caricatures portray. Unfortunately, despite everything the Bible has to say about love, evangelical theology remains woefully inadequate on the topic.
This means that love outside of marriage is difficult if not close to impossible for people to find, carrying huge ramifications for celibate gay Christians.
So it’s time to change. more “Finding Love in the Church When You’re Gay, Christian, and Celibate”